For the sake of this exercise, envision yourself as the thinker in these office scenarios: 1.) Walking down the office hall: “There’s Sam from accounting, I should say hi, but I’m going to pretend I didn’t see him. I’ve got too much to do; I don’t have time for a conversation.” (Sam knows you saw […]
“I can meet with so and so. I have the “space” (aka a sliver of time crammed between two other meetings).” “ I can squeeze in this work. I mean, there’s always nights and weekends.” “Thursday night is free; I can volunteer for that thing I don’t really want to at my kid’s school. […]
As soon as I clicked post, my gut twisted. That’s not a good sign. You see, I’m committed to telling you the truth about what it’s like to be a speaker, and I didn’t live up to that commitment. I put up a post on LinkedIn about my success with my first live event. I […]
I know you. You’re the first one to speak up when you hear another woman badmouthing herself. No friend of yours will talk trash about herself in front of you. You don’t let your kids or their friends talk crap to each other in your house. No sir. Perpetrators are given a verbal warning and […]
It’s not my line; it’s circa 1992 from Alabama’s country hit “I’m in a hurry.” I love it. It’s one of those songs that whenever it comes on the radio, I stop what I’m doing and listen. It reminds me of Tonya. I was sitting on the floor of my friend Christina’s room, melting eye-liner with a […]
It took me nearly four hours to walk my first half marathon. Once I finished, I spent the rest of the day alternating between soaking in a hot bath and lying on the couch. At the time, I was overweight, a closet smoker and thought that Fruity Pebbles were an OK choice for breakfast, lunch, […]
I’m on vacation with my family this week. There are nine of us (we’ll almost, my sister and my niece arrive tonight). When I tell people that I vacation with my extended family I find their reactions interesting. I get responses like: “That’s wonderful! You must have a great time!” to “Seriously? How do you […]
“I was trying to talk about my art project when the professor stopped me and said ‘Can you, like, stop saying the word like’”? Darcy told me her face got red, she wanted to find a place to cry, and it made talking about her project harder, not easier. I wanted to cry with her. I’ve been there, […]
“If you want freedom, set clear boundaries.” I’m not making a political statement; I’m talking about you. Last week I spoke to a group of volunteer leaders for Sigma Sigma Sigma sorority, and a woman said her biggest take away was my phrase “if you want freedom, set clear boundaries.” The women I spoke to […]
