When Was the Last Time You Said "I Don't Know?"

"Well, if you did know the answer, what would it be?" A former boss suggested I use this phrase with an intern who said "I don't know" occasionally.  The workplace culture was "fend for yourself, don't ask questions and don't let people…

Worried that Everyone Will Find Out You're Really Not Supposed to be Here?

"It's going to happen, sooner or later. They're going to figure out that you're not supposed to be here.  It's all a fluke.  Who do you think you are? Even if you can hide who you are, someone will throw you off your game; you won't…
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You're Moving to the Bottom of My List

I gotta tell you about a conversation I had last week. Bob (not his real name) works for a company whose goal is to be exceptional with client communications. (I bet your organization has goals similar to this too). We were in a group,…

There's Nothing Unique About Me

Last week I was a guest on the Amplify Indy podcast (check it out here). Saying yes was easy, I felt confident I'd be able to answer questions about my business without much trouble. They got me though, with this; "In ninety seconds,…

What is it About You That I Don't Like About Me?

This isn't my quote.  I wish it were.  We can thank Dr. Phil for this one (yes, I said Dr. Phil, judge all you want).  My free time in college was spent watching  Oprah, Dr. Phil, and Dr. Oz.  They were my trifecta of personal enlightenment. What…
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Are You Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop?

"I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop." I got to thinking about this phrase over the weekend. It used to make a lot of sense to me.  I mean, things don't always work out, right? We make mistakes, bad things happen, and stuff doesn't…

What If You Decided to be Confident?

My twelve-year-old daughter, Carmen, is wise. The other day we were talking about confidence.  She sails through life feeling good about who she is and what she does.  She always has. When she was three, I gave her crackers and cheese…
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Where Did You Start?

This is me before my high school graduation. The photos are fuzzy. Yes, that's a Marborlo light in my mouth. I started smoking when I was fourteen years old, and it took me until my mid-thirties to stop completely. I used one of…
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Who Are You Committing To?

We would've been married for 18 years this past Sunday. I can't remember the last time I did the math or thought about how long it's been since I married Tony. We've been divorced longer than we were married. I've been happily remarried…