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The Power to Change Your Life Lies in Hard Choices

Saying no to a friend, a colleague, or a family member. Speaking up when you're afraid—staying quiet when others are not.  Exercising, avoiding crappy food and booze, steering clear of drama, and gossip. They're not called hard choices for…
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If You Want More Freedom Create Better Boundaries

It sounds counterintuitive, doesn't it?  Boundaries are lines that mark limits, and freedom is the power to act, speak, or think without restraint.  If those definitions are accurate, how it possible to have more freedom by creating limits? Aren't…
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I'm a verbal affirmation junkie.

There. I said it. I'm a verbal affirmation junkie, an addict if you will.  I'm addicted to words and praise and adoration from other people. As I write, I'm battling the fantasies of comments I'll get (or won't get) in response.  The…
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What would you say today if you knew tomorrow you'd never speak again?

Don’t gloss over this question with the standard response, “I’d tell my loved ones how much I love them.” Of course, you would. Go deeper. There’s more, isn’t there?  More people you’d talk to? More questions you’d ask?…
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Instant gratification or instant grace?

"Are you sure you don't want some? I mean, we live in a world of instant gratification, ya know? This will give it to ya."   Words from the aesthetician I was visiting, referring to Botox.  (and by referring I mean not so subtly suggesting…

To Possess High Ideals and Attain Somewhat Unto Them

Last week, I was lucky enough to speak with the women of Alpha Gamma Delta at their Golden Convention in San Antonio, Texas. To say I was excited to be there would be an understatement. Being able to speak to others is a privilege  I don't…
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Eleven Rules for Confident Communication

  I have two daughters, Carmen and Kayla, and a son, Phillip.  I want the world for them.  I'm constantly thinking about how my behavior shapes their behavior and what lessons I can teach that will have a lasting impact on their lives. One…

Are You Competing or Adding?

A couple of weeks ago, I attended DisruptHR Indy, a TED talk-inspired event focused on disrupting the world of human resources. I was there to support one of my clients and to cheer on all the other speakers, several who are good friends of…

You're Just so... EFFUSIVE

Words have hurt me many times in my life. It was supposed to be my dream job, and I wanted to do my best.  I was about forty days in when I got the chance to meet my boss's favorite client.  She (my boss) couldn't say enough positive things…